Some men don’t care if their wives “look” at other men and make comments about how they turn them on; just don’t touch. A wife may not object to her husband “looking” at other women, even if he is openly lusting for them, so long as he does not touch them. In fact, it is not uncommon for a wife to tolerate her husband looking at pornography on the Internet, or going to strip clubs with the guys. She tells herself, “At least he is just looking.” The mentality of “look, but don’t touch” is contrary to the Bible.
Jesus said, “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matt. 5:28). God judges the heart as well as outward actions. If a man lusts after another woman, thinking about having sex with her, he is committing adultery in his heart and stands condemned before God.
Some women are happy their husband is not “really” committing adultery. But, where does adultery begin anyway? Jesus said the heart (Mk. 7:21). So, these women may not mind their husbands lusting after other women, but will they be angry when he ends up committing adultery with one of them?
We need to reject the sex-saturated culture of modern-day America and keep ourselves pure. As the wise man said, “Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life” (Prov. 4:23).