Ask a dozen people to define “home” and “family” and you will likely get a dozen definitions. Some view a home as a place to eat and sleep. Others see the family as a place of emotional security and personal appreciation. For some the home is where you can be yourself, let it all hang out; unrestrained in tongue and temper. Many in our society see the home as a place of personal pampering.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines family in several ways.
1: a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head.
2 a : a group of persons of common ancestry.
3 a : a group of people united by certain convictions or a common affiliation.
5 a : the basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their own or adopted children; also : any of various social units differing from but regarded as equivalent to the traditional family <a single-parent family> b : spouse and children <want to spend more time with my family>.
Are these the definitions, limitations, and illustrations we should accept with regard to home and family?
The Bible’s Definition
The Word of God is rather definite in its definition of family and home. It is distinct from what society or scholars say. We get the definition from the account of God’s establishment of the first family (Gen. 2:18-24). He made a man and a woman; and brought them together. That is the basic family unit. Sometimes there are children added to this family (Gen. 1:26, 27; 4:1, 2; 11:29, 30). However, children are not necessary for a family to exist.
It is worth noting that God’s family does not consist of two men who “marry” or live together in an alternative lifestyle. Nor is it two lesbians. The family and home are not a mixed group of unmarried, unrelated people according to the Bible.
Satan is at work trying to redefine family and marriage, the foundation of the biblical family. Our modern, secularist society is all too happy to play along. They believe it is an improvement over the “traditional” meaning, seeing it as unenlightened.
The Heritage Foundation put out a document titled In Defense of Marriage. In it the authors, Matthew Spalding and Joseph Loconte, cited the Massachusetts’ Supreme Court Ruling that said marriage is “an evolving paradigm” and “the voluntary union of two persons as spouses, to the exclusion of all others.” The exclusion part is fine, it is the “evolving” and “two persons” that is the problem. That means the standard of marriage is ever changing and two persons could be any number of things.
The Family Research Council recognizes the danger of redefining marriage and family in its article The Slippery Slope of Same-Sex Marriage in 2004. The author, Timothy J. Dailey, Ph. D., highlights the case of a Missouri man who wanted to marry a horse. No joke. The government would not let him. Will it be long before it is allowed? Between the animal-rights crowd who want to elevate animals to the level of man and the homosexual movement, it seems possible, if not probable in the not-too-distant future.
The article goes on to state the following problems with same-sex marriages, how they are not equal to traditional marriage.
- Relationship duration is much shorter.
- Promiscuity is much higher.
- Violence is more frequent.
What We Need To Do
First, have absolute faith in the Bible and God’s wisdom in establishing the family. He started with one man and one woman. To that relationship children entered at a later time. The man and woman were bound together for life. Society would be much better off if everyone heeded this biblical model.
Second, we need to teach our children about the family and home. They need it engrained in their head so when they encounter alternate teaching from their atheists and liberal teachers (or friends or television show or….) they will be forearmed against it. If they are not grounded in the truth from a young age, it is unlikely they will accept after being indoctrinated by the world.
Third, let your voice be heard in your community and by your representatives. A letter to the local city council, county officials, state and federal representatives and senators, as well as the governor will do good. Run for office yourself to stand for old-fashioned, biblical, family values. We can have an influence and impact on the world around us (Matt. 5:14-16).