Sadly, some parents fail to do what God has charged them to do.
Fathers fail when they do not lead in the home. When a father’s interest is more focused on himself and worldly pursuits, he has neglected his duty to be a spiritual leader as God would have it.
Overbearing or uncaring fathers are a disgrace. In the name of “I am the authority here” and “discipline” some fathers act as dictators. It is a perversion of God’s will and drives children away from the home and, often, the Lord.
When a man will not provide for his family, he is undermining the home. He is worse than an infidel and does not personally deserve to eat (1 Tim. 5:8; 2 Thes. 3:10). Frequently the children see this and either think that is how it is supposed to be (which is bad) or are bitter toward authority. It stays with them into adulthood.
Mothers fail when they try to dominate and control the family. Instead of submitting to God by submitting to her husband’s lead, she puts her foot down (Eph. 5:22-24). Both sons and daughters become confused about God-give roles in marriage and the family. The cycle often continues through more than one generation.
Lazy mothers have a terrible impact on the home. The husband often does not want to come home to a messy house that is cluttered. The children become slobs and a menace to others later in life.
Women who resent the role God has bestowed on them as a mother or homemaker are a shame as well. It is a privilege to be in this position. It is a woman’s sphere of influence and glory (1 Tim. 2:15; Titus 2:3-5). She ought to embrace it, while rejecting society’s perverted standards.
How Is Your Home?
Are you failing as a father or mother? Do you see room for improvement? If we are honest with ourselves, we can all improve.
Spend time in the Word reading and meditating on the responsibilities God has given you. Some great passages to dwell on are Ephesians 5:22-33, 1 Peter 3:1-7, and Psalm 127.
Seek out advice from older Christians who you know have been successful in the home. Also go to those who have made mistakes and ask them what not to do (be careful with this one and make sure they are willing to talk about it). Great wisdom can be gleaned from those who have traveled this path before.
Finally, spend much time in prayer. Ask God’s guidance and wisdom in how to be a better husband or wife or parent. Pray that you will see your faults and have the determination and courage to face and fix them. You can do it with God’s help (Jas. 1:2-5).